Why Daddy doesn’t live with Mummy

As you know, Daddy lives with Lisa and Monkey and you come to visit us every other weekend, sometimes Daddy comes to see you during the week. We love it when you stay with us, you have such a big family now and we all love you very much. As you get older I’m thinking about how you’ll see the world and what questions you might have, one of those questions might be why I don’t live with you and Mummy.

Mummy and I had lived together for a very long time and before you were born Mummy had become quite ill. We spent a long time visiting the doctors and the hospital to help Mummy get better and once she was better we decided to have a family.

Now how babies are made, is something we can talk about another time, just know that we couldn’t have a baby the normal way. This wasn’t anyone’s fault and we didn’t let it stop us (after all here you are!). After visiting the doctors, filling out forms and attending interviews, visiting the hospital and lots of waiting, we eventually found out that Mummy was pregnant with you. We were so excited to find out you were coming.

I’m telling you all this as I think it’s important you know everything that happened to Mummy and Daddy before you arrived. As you get older you will experience things that are incredibly difficult and although it might be hard, you will always get through these times as you have your Mummy and Daddy to support you. When we went through our difficult times, before you arrived, we struggled as we didn’t get the support we needed.

Although at the time, Mummy and Daddy couldn’t see it, we had changed a lot. We weren’t really the same people anymore and we started to disagree and tell each other off. Sometimes going through a very difficult time can change how you behave, it can make you angry or sad and sometimes it changes you so much you’re not the same person anymore. That’s the point where we decided that it was best that Mummy and Daddy found somewhere different to live.

Both Mummy and Daddy wanted a happy house for you to live and play in, so we decided that I would find another house where you could come and stay sometimes.  Although we argued a lot still when you were tiny, we get on a lot better now and enjoy sharing what you get up to together.

A couple of years ago, you met Lisa and I’m so happy you guys get on, it’s awesome watching you both play in the kitchen together and since Monkey came a long it’s brilliant watching you and your sister play together too!

When you get older your Mummy and I will explain in more detail but you make us both very happy and that’s the important thing, always keep smiling and know that we all love you very much! x

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7 Responses

  1. Beautiful post, it must be hard to think about and try explain. But all she needs is love and it looks like she’s got that bucket loads.

  2. Such a tough thing to explain. My BIL is in the middle of a very acrimonious split and he’s been struggling to do whats best for his two sets of twins. Good for you guys for getting it sorted and remembering its not just about you two. Cheers #thatfridaylinky

    • Anthony says:

      It is, a lot harder than I thought it would be too. It took a long time to get to a point where we could all focus on what was best for our daughter instead of emotion point scoring which I’m afraid it resorted to at times. Time will heal all wounds so they say, I’m a firm believer in that.
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  3. Nige says:

    This is tough and I know my first marriage broke up when my older three children were 7,5,4 very hard times but it works out they are now grown up and we all get on fine and of course they have five year old twin sisters now good times stay strong Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please
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  4. Such a lovely heartfelt post! My parents separated when I was 7 and it was pretty tough! They remained friends though something I think really helps when children are involved!

    Thank you for linking up with #TheMumDiaries

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